How do we choose to respond when life rolls us through waves of change? It's beautifully, terrifyingly and inevitably a part of life's process. Family dynamics change, friends move on, companies grow, we evolve. Sometimes change shakes us to the core. We may not feel ready for a new reality. So what are we to do? Stress, worry, make ourselves sick about outcomes over which we have no control? How can we feel better when circumstances, relationships and certainties are being flipped on their heads?
When I'm ping ponging off the walls of my brain cage, and focus is unattainable, I light a candle and pull out my journal. I start by spewing my in-the-moment feelings. Even the most intimate, embarrassing things I'd never want to admit out loud about my perceptions. Once I cleanse the beast, then I write, "Now that I know what I don't want, here's more of what I do want . . . " I write down as many desired aspects of the circumstance, relationship or scenario (whatever it is I'm wanting to feel better about) that naturally arise. I write down how I want to feel. The kind of person I want to be. How I want to treat others and myself.
And then I flow out statements that are to me, from me. The things I really need to hear that others might not be able to express or give to me. I write myself a love note that infuses all the compassion, groundedness, nurturing and support that I need in the moment. Today's went something like . . .
It's ok, elyse.
I will always love you, no matter what.
I will always be here with you.
I will always see how kind you are.
I will always give you loving attention.
I will always understand you.
I will always soothe you.
I will always be your friend.
I will always help you receive everything you need to soar.
I will always keep you safe.
I will always keep you healthy.
I will always love you, no matter what you do, or say, or think ~ I will always love you more.